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Joseph in sunny San Diego with our friend Billy. We joked all week that Joseph and Billy have the same hair style.
Joseph turns 10 months old today.
10 months.
That means in two months he’ll be 1 year old.
This is going way too fast for me.
The last month has been such a fun time for the little man. On August 11, Joseph took his first steps. He’s now taking three and four steps at a time; making his way between me, one of the girls, Jonathan, Jack and furniture. I can’t get over how mobile he is becoming. Frankly, I now fully see the difference between boys and girls. The girls have always been adventurous {or so I think}, but Joseph is a dare devil. Put him in the middle of complete crazy and he is on cloud nine. Clearly, he was born into the right family. 😉
The girls head back to school tomorrow and I am looking forward to one on one time with Joseph. Though, I’m worried he’s going to find me very boring in comparison to the girls. Maybe I’ll need to build an indoor jungle gym to keep my “coolest mama” status.
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I have some really awesome posts for y’all. But, they are sitting in my queue and will be there for at least another week. Sorry to disappoint. We are leaving tomorrow for vacation to San Diego. It will be a lovely, lovely time {if only because of the weather}. But, the getting ready part? Not so lovely.
Jonathan got word Tuesday afternoon that he needed to leave the next day for a 2-day business trip. He’s been gone since Wednesday afternoon and comes back around midnight tonight. Which means I’m on my own to pack for myself and 3 kids, clean house, get Jack situated, and prepare the family to be gone for a week. Whew.
I’ve been checking my list over and over again, making sure we have everything we need. Oh, did a mention I’m not going to be here until right before we leave tomorrow? Yeah. I have a women’s overnight retreat tonight, so I have to make sure everything is ready to go before 7 pm. We Windhams sure know how to make hectic even busier, huh?
I am so ready for the beach.
Mommies Need Friends Too
Posted on: August 16, 2012
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It seems like from the moment you announce you’re pregnant, people start telling you the importance of socializing your kids. Personally, I don’t really like that term “socializing” because it reminds me of dog training. But, whatevs. You get flyers for Mommy and Me, Music Time, Reading Time, Play Gym Time, Get Your Toddler Outside So They Don’t Destroy The House Time. A mama’s days {and nights} can get completely consumed with kid time. But you know what? Mamas need friends too.
I have been extremely blessed that in both Iowa and Texas, I have lived in close proximity to women {mamas} that I really love. There are five sweet, sweet women all on my street who have become very dear to me. We try getting all the kids together {there are 13 between us all!} as often as schedules allow, but mama time PLUS kids isn’t really mama time. So what’s a mama to do to maintain her friendships?
1. Girls’ Night Out – GNOs are essential to my sanity. About once a month to every 6 weeks, the mamas on our block have a GNO. We usually schedule it for a weeknight {so as to not take away too much weekend family time}, and later in the evening {so as to either put kids to bed, or leave our hubbies with just bedtime duties}. Then it’s a night out on the town. Well, not really. We usually go to a favorite cafe or eatery for a late dinner and wine. I gotta be honest, it takes effort. Getting the kids settled, getting the hubby prepped for solo duty, getting all those women to the same place on time. Yeah, not easy. But it is always worth it. Always.
2. Buddy Up – Have a common interest? Ask your mama friend to buddy up with you. My friend, Adriane, is my workout/running buddy. Three to four times a week we either hit the road running, or the gym to lift weights. It gives us a good 30-60 minutes of one on one, no kids around, chatting. It’s great. Granted, a lot of it is winded talk {it’s surprisingly hard to keep a conversation going after 5 miles}, but we have had some really deep, really good conversations buddying up together.
3. Be Bold – I’m not a very quiet person. I’m loud and fairly opinionated. But, this might shock you, I am oddly shy. If I meet a mama at the park that I really like, I have a hard time asking for her number. Perhaps it’s the fear of rejection {though that’s never actually happened} or that it feels like some weird bar pick up “Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but here’s my number, so call me maybe.” But, I’ve met some really great ladies through just being bold enough to say “let’s do this whole park with the kids thing again!”.
4. Incorporate Others – Along with the buddy up system, if you and your kids are heading to the park {or pool, or zoo, or wherever}, invite other mamas. It might not be quite the same having all the kids around, but it still helps build friendships and foster relationships.
What are ways that you maintain friendships {as a mom, as a full time worker, students, etc}? I’d love to hear any tips or tricks you’ve learned!
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My personal mantra is :: The hardest part of running is starting. It’s a phrase I think every time I run {especially at 0’dark thirty}. That’s why I stress the need for you to have a goal to push you. Honestly, your goal can be whatever you want it to be. It doesn’t need to be what your friends say, what I say, what a trainer says. Your goal needs to be personal, something that pushes you, makes you proud.
For ease sake, I’m going to talk about setting a goal to run a 5K {that’s 3.1 miles}. Why? Because that is the first real race distance and one I believe every able body can accomplish. Also, since I’m addressing beginning runners, I’m going to focus on finishing the race as a goal, rather than focus on time oriented goals. If you’re interested in setting PRs {personal records}, let me know and I can direct you to some really good information.
Racing for the finish ::
Let me preface – There is nothing wrong in just wanting to finish a race. You don’t need to set personal records, you don’t need to beat a clock. If your goal is to finish {without dying along the way} that is a perfectly acceptable goal {and one I have set several times myself}. With a “just finish” goal, you will also need to set a perimeter on that goal, i.e. to finish without walking, to finish with only X amount of breaks, etc. Once you have your perimeters set, start running.
There are lots of great training programs for 5Ks. The most popular is Cool Running’s Couch to 5K. The great thing about C25K is that they have you alternating walking and jogging. Why is that so important? First, it helps build stamina. Second, it sets a good pace. The last thing you want is to start your running career running hard and fast. You won’t last long because you’ll either injure yourself or get totally burned out. Even now, I can tell if I’ve started a run off too fast – and I almost always regret it {either through being overly tired, or having to stop short of my daily goal}.
Another great program is Hal Higdon’s 5K. He has several to chose from, ranging from walking to performance running. I personally am using Hal’s training program for an upcoming half and for my marathon in February. But, my best advice is to find a program that helps ease you into the world of running, fits your schedule and helps challenge you.
Now, just because I said earlier that you shouldn’t start off fast, does not mean you shouldn’t push yourself. If you know you can run faster, run faster. If you know you can run farther, run farther. But be smart about it. Slowly increase your speed and mileage. A rule of thumb in running is that you should only increase your mileage {or run time} by 10% a week. This allows your body to adjust to its new workout and helps prevent injury {which is every runners nightmare}. A good personal example is that when I train for a longer race, I typically only add 1 additional mile a week. I’ve been known to add two, but only if I feel like my body can handle the adjustment.
Just remember – Slow and steady wins the race. Don’t come out, guns blazing, expecting to shoot down the track. Instead, pace yourself, listen to your body {if it tells you you can speed up or need to slow down} and focus on your goal – the finish line.
Next week, I’m going to be address the moms – how do I fit in running with kids, what my run schedule looks like, and why I think all moms should run.
*Disclaimer: All tactics/tips are my own personal opinions and not medically backed. Please seek medical advice before starting any running program.
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The first step in becoming a runner is to run. That might be simplifying things, but it’s true. You’ll never be a runner if you don’t run.
Running is a daunting task at times. It’s hard, it’s tiring, and can be very lonely. But I’m going to share some quick tips to get you started.
1. Set a goal – Every race I’ve run has a goal. It could be to finish. It could be to set a record. It could be to just have fun. Having a goal in running let’s you know how you’re doing while training. Without a goal, you don’t have clear direction. And without direction chances are good you’ll stop running.
2. Set realistic goals – I’d love to get on a course and run a 10K in under 45 minutes today. That averages an 7min/mil. Doable, perhaps. But since my current average is 9min/mil, it’s not that realistic. If you’ve never run, or it’s been a long time, having realistic goals allows you to meet your bar and feel accomplished. Set a goal to run a 5K in 3 or 4 months, not next month.
3. Buddy system – Running is great for solitude. I can hit the streets and not talk to anyone, just be alone. But that can get really boring. If you are just starting off running, having a running buddy can make the difference between success and failure. A friend helps push you, motivate you and hold you accountable. You can be certain, I would not be running at 6am if I didn’t have someone depending on me running with them.
Don’t have friends who run? Do a search for running groups in your area, or check out Meetup. Finding established clubs are safer options for meeting a new running buddy.
4. Get the gear – If you have never run before, you need to make sure you have shoes, shorts, top and sports bra {for the ladies}. It’s going to make things much harder if you don’t have what you need to get started.
5. Don’t get the gear – Chances are good, that you probably already have the essential gear you need to start running. Now, I speak for myself when I say – don’t buy new shoes/shorts/top/bra thinking this will motivate you to run. Personally, for me it never did. If you already have what you need to run, start running. Perhaps getting new shoes/clothes can be a reward for hitting your goal. Run a 5K, get new shoes.
Don’t let yourself be discouraged before you ever start. Set a goal, find a friend and start running.
“The miracle isn’t that I finished. The miracle is that I had the courage to start.” -John Bingham
Next week, I’m going to be addressing how to set goals using running programs – and how to find a program that’s right for you.
*Disclaimer: All tactics/tips are my own personal opinions and not medically backed. Please seek medical advice before starting any running program.
So You Want to Be a Runner?
Posted on: August 8, 2012
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I grew up around a lot of runners. My step dad ran track and field throughout college. My older brother did the same throughout jr high and high school. I had lots of friends who ran. I always wanted to run, but never thought I really could – especially distance. Sure, just about every able body is capable of running, but I had a dream of running distance, not just down the street.
I remember running for a few months in high school during basketball season. I had tried out for the basketball team {you can laugh at that statement} and part of training was to build up to a 3 mile run. I think I made it to 1.5 miles before I stopped. And I promptly quit the basketball team. In college, my longest distance was a mile. Maybe 1.5 if I’m being extra generous. And I’m pretty certain that 1 mile took me a good 20 minutes. I tell you all this to say – If I can run, anyone can run.
After Hannah, my second child, was born, I started working out. I joined a gym, got plugged into an aerobics class. Shortly afterward, some girlfriends suggested we run a 5K together. So, 4 months after Hannah was born, I ran my first race. I hadn’t done any training for it, but hoped that I had built up enough endurance from my aerobics class to get me through. I made it. It wasn’t pretty, it wasn’t fast, but I did it. And a fire was lit.
The day after my first race, I ran again. 1.5 miles around our neighborhood. I told a friend, and avid runner, about the 5K. She encouraged me to run a 10K with her later that month. I thought she was straight up crazy, but I signed up. Shortly after the 10K, that same friend said “If you can run a 10K, you can run a half marathon.” Again, my first thought was she was straight up crazy. But that prod stuck with me. Two months later, I started training for my first half marathon. Three months after that, I ran my first half. I haven’t looked back since.
This year marks the most races I have ever done in a running season. By year’s end, I will have completed 3 half marathons, 2 10Ks and 1 5K. My race season next year will kickoff with my first full marathon.
Over the next month, I’m going to share my personal tips and advice for beginning runners. Whether you want to run a marathon, or you just want to run a mile without stopping, I’m going to share my insights to how to go from dreaming about running, to being a runner.
In Which I Ask My Friends For Help
Posted on: August 6, 2012
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This summer has thrown me for a loop. No, that’s not true. Having three kids has thrown me for a loop. It seems that once I have enough time to devote myself to something more creative {like blogging}, my mind has exploded and I have nothing left to give. Which is sad, because frankly I really love my internet community.
And then, once I finally write something I’m passionate about, it takes a toll I didn’t foresee. Again, maybe that’s not true. I did foresee it, but didn’t expect it to be a conversation that lasted this long {though it’s allowed me to share the gospel with several people and that in of itself is down right amazing}.
I’ve found myself stuck – I want to write, but have been unwilling to carve out the time. Once I have the time {like now} I am unsure what to write.
So, my sweet readers, what do you want to read? My blog isn’t just a monologue, so if there is a dialogue you’d what, let me know. Clearly, I don’t shy away from many topics.
Let me know what interests you, what you want to read about, learn about and I’ll start writing. We can look at it as a win-win; you get to give me ideas, and I get to write.
7 Years of Crazy Wonderful
Posted on: July 31, 2012
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Yesterday Jonathan and I celebrated our 7 year anniversary. The day itself was like any other Monday – work, errands, mothering and cleaning. But our sweet friends, Adriane and Sam, babysat the kids so that Jonathan and I could go out for the night.
We had dinner at Uchi, an award winning Japanese and sushi restaurant. After making the reservations a couple of weeks ago, I had talked to several friends who had been to Uchi before. Each person said that it was phenomenal, so my expectations were set pretty high. The way that you order is one item {or tasting} at a time. We started off with hama chili – baby yellowtail in a chili sauce with oranges. When the dish arrived, I figured it would taste like any other sushi/raw fish I’ve had before. Oh.My.Stars. I could not get over how incredible it was. We ordered a few more dishes, and they just kept getting better and better. There was not one item that we didn’t think was “the best yet”.
We spent 2 hours at Uchi, laughing, talking and being thoroughly entertained with ourselves. I told Jonathan that I couldn’t get over how, after 7 years of marriage, I enjoy being with him more now than I did before {which seemed like a lot}. Every trial we have faced, every hardship we have endured, has brought us closer together, has made our marriage stronger. Every sweet memory, every good moment, has given us more joy because we share it with each other. Marriage, it’s an amazing thing.
The last 7 years have been crazy wonderful, and I can’t wait to see what more is to come.
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Whew. Maybe I should don the moniker “The Girl Who Kicked the Hornet’s Nest”.
But moving on, let’s talk about what’s been going on around these parts. Last week, the kids and I decided to go park hunting. What’s park hunting you ask? Well, that’s when you drive around town looking for the best park.
The idea was more fun than the execution. Before we even left our neighborhood, the girls lamented that they were starving. We pushed through with snacks and the promise of fun. The first park we found proved promising. But the 100* weather and rumbling stomachs started to get the better of us. We abandoned ship and went in search of food.
There was much rejoicing when we chose Homeslice Pizza. A favorite of mine, this was the girls’ first experience. They were amazed at being given a slice of pizza that was the size of their heads.
The trip to Homeslice proved to be a thousand times better than any park scene. Which further proves that my children take after me and enjoy good food to just about anything. And if that food is pizza? Even better.
While eating lunch, we spotted this ::
Oh you know, just some people walking their horses through Austin. Just another reason I think Austin is the coolest. Also? That restaurant in the background {Guero’s} has some pretty rockin’ good Mexican food. Just random information if you ever find yourself on South Congress.
We washed our pizza down with a sweetberry and Michael Jackson cupcake from Hey Cupcake!, winning me the Mom of the Year award.
All three kids passed out on our way home, transferred smoothly from the van to their beds, and we all took naps. Yeah, it was a good day.







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