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When My Worse is Compared to Everyone’s Perfect

Posted on: January 10, 2013

Our family spent a few days on a ranch just after the New Year. My uncle organized the event, which included my parents, cousins, a couple of extra aunts and uncles and our Nana.

It was a blast. Well, that might be an overstatement – little sleep was had, kids were off schedule, we over ate sugar and sugary drinks, at least one argument happened, and perhaps compromises of parenting skills took place {I’ll meekly raise my hand to that}.

While we were there, I overheard someone mention coffee. Always one to jump at a cup of coffee, I asked if a pot was brewing. My cousins all laughed and one even joked “Every morning I get on facebook, I look to see how many miles Sarah has run and how much coffee she’s had. What’s that? She’s run 16 miles and had 4 cups of coffee.”

We all got a good laugh. And he’s right, if you looked at my facebook updates, they are almost always about running, coffee, or something mildly entertaining {actually, I really hope that people find my updates hilarious}.

Here’s the thing :

My facebook updates aren’t my real life. 

Sure, I ran 16 miles. Sure, I drank 4 cups of coffee. Sure, I might have said something witty.

But that’s the Best of Sarah. You don’t see the nitty gritty. You aren’t seeing the failures, the mess ups, the heartaches. After all, that doesn’t make for great social media {in my opinion}. What makes for great social media is triumph. Laughing in the face of obstacles. Victory.

As I’ve spent the last several months quietly sitting back, letting the blogging and social media world get a few steps ahead of me, I’ve realized something – I’m comparing my worse to everyone’s perfect.

I’ve heard people talk about this a lot. How you can’t compare your behind the scenes with other people’s highlight reels. It is so, so true. But I’ve been doing that a lot lately. And I’ve learned something from it.

1. I get really bitter over failing to meet “expectations”.

2. I will never meet “expectations”.

I’ve been threatening for some time to get rid of social media all together. To burn our computer to the ground and toss out my iPhone in an effort to get rid of those “expectations”. But those things aren’t my hang up. My hang up is that I forget the people behind the status updates are real. I forget that they, just like me, are showing their highlight reels. I forget that I’m comparing my worse to everyone’s perfect.

And when I remember that, that the people on my computer are real and fail just like me, I can sit back and enjoy the highlights.

11 Responses to "When My Worse is Compared to Everyone’s Perfect"

Amen! Blogging can be tricky that way — I want to appear authentic but I also don’t want to be judged for my “bad days”.

I hear ya on that. But you’ll not find judgement here, because we all have our bad days! (And that The Lord for His grace!)

I second the ‘amen’!

And I DO think you and your beautiful kiddos are hilarious 🙂

Yay! I’m really glad you think I’m funny, Autumn. 😀

So true! Comparison is so lame… Lets enjoy reading, writing and sharing life without all that!:)

Lame indeed! Lets enjoy life without all that just like you said!

This has to be one of my faves. Love love loved it!!!!

Thanks Shelly!! Love you!

Friend. I want to give you a hug right now and high five you at the same time. Seriously. I always love reading your posts, but this one hits the nail on the head exactly. Thank you for writing it! “And when I remember that, that the people on my computer are real and fail just like me, I can sit back and enjoy the highlights.” That’s the truth. I wish we lived closer so we could be friends “in real life” 🙂

Jodi, I wish we lived close by too. Apparently California is where it’s at. 😉

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