A Wife Loved Like The Church

The loss of a faithful companion

Posted on: July 8, 2010

Over the weekend, my mei tai went missing. I know yesterday I told everyone that something tragic happened, and while to some you might laugh at my overstatement, it really has been a very sad loss for me and Bear.

I love baby-wearing. I found with Julia that it helped her sleep better and that with Hannah it helps her feel “a part of things”. I’ve tried three different types of carriers and the mei tai has stolen my heart. When Hannah was little, I would wear her in a pouch on my chest, now as she’s gotten older I wear her on my hip or back. The mei tai is the easiest for me to use, because it’s not complicated {and I really can’t do complicated, trust me}. There have been times when I literally don’t take off my mei tai for hours. Nowadays, it’s getting less and less use – maybe a few times a week. Why? Because as Hannah walks more she likes being carried less. Same was true for Julia. But, when we go out, I still carry her most of the time.

Saturday we went to the Iowa City Jazz Festival. I carried Hannah for the first half, but she began squirming out so she could play with the other kids. Typically I might just leave the mei tai on, if there’s a chance Hannah will want back in, but I knew that wasn’t likely. So I just wrapped it up and carried it with us. When I went to get the mei tai from the car on Sunday I couldn’t find it. I’ve turned the house, garage and car upside down looking for it, but found nothing. Tears between Hannah and I have been shed. Especially yesterday, when all she wanted to was be held all day long. I got out my other wraps but she revolted against them. Sad, long day.

“Oh mei tai, thank you for you faithful 2+ years of service. You were a wonderful carrier and I love you. Sorry you had to leave so soon.


One Sad Baby-Carrying Mama”

9 Responses to "The loss of a faithful companion"

Sad! I have a pattern for a mei tai with padded straps, really similar to your old one. I haven’t made one with this pattern yet, but I’ve been wanting to try it. If you want to buy the material, I could make one for you. Let me know. I’ve also made ones for my sister and sis-in-law with wider upadded straps that they both seem to like and that one is super simple, takes me about 2 hours max.

Ohh! I might just take you up on the offer. How much fabric would I need? I was going to order one today, but if you think you’d be willing to make it/have time, I might just go that route. I’ll email you.

Ooo that is sad, I’m sorry for you and bear’s loss. It sounds like the mei tai has been very important. We’ve got (borrowed) about every carrier but that one, haha. I think we’ll use and enjoy the Ergo most because it’s a front/back carrier. Though, I know baby bird will have an opinion too. I’m excited to use the Moby when he’s little but all that fabric is pretty intimidating.

What a bummer! I kept waiting for “and then!”…so sad.

Can you tell me if you tried a an Ergo baby and why you enjoyed the mei tai over it?

Ann, I never used the Ergo, because of the cost. I had a friend who had one and said she didn’t like it because it always felt too loose no matter what she did to tighten it. I’d look for reviews online for both to compare. If I hear/see anything about the two I’ll let ya know!

I lost my ring sling when my second daughter was a little over a year. I went to every place I’d been for the past week, and put a “lost” add in the paper. It seemed a little silly to everyone else, but I had bought it before my first baby was born and it was such a part of mommy-ing my babies that many tears were shed when I discovered it was gone. I totally understand your loss!
Also, your kiddos were super-cute at Cow Appreciation day – I should have introduced myself when I stopped to say hello to Rachel and Leah, but my 4-year-old was having a major cow freak out (scary cow!) and it seemed a bit creepy to say “I recognize you from the internet”. Although I realize that this probably sounds a bit creepy too!

Ok, I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who would be so upset about a carrier.

Hopefully next time you’re around, we can met! I love random intros, especially if it’s because of Internet connections! Never creepy, at least not to me. 🙂

I have a mei tai that you can have.

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